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FRIENDSHIP - trust; the best way to make a man trustworthy is to trust him; part eight (08)

["Deciding whether or not to trust a person is like deciding whether or not to climb a tree, because you might either get a wonderful view from the top or simply get covered in sap, and for this reason many people choose to spend their time alone and indoors, where it's harder to get a splinter" - LEMONY SNICKET] The sphere of trust is where we share our deepest secrets and freely stand most exposed; where we sacrifice for others without losing ourselves. Trust may be risky since mistrust makes life difficult but distrust makes life a prison. ["Relationships of trust depend on our willingness to look not only to our interest, but also the interest of others." - PETER FARQUHARSON] ["It is more shameful to distrust one's friends than to be deceived by them" - FRANCOIS]. Be it friendship or relationship, all bonds are built on trust; without trust, you got no good foundation; no relationship without communication, no love without respect, no foundation without trust; without the foundation, there is no reason to continue building. Relationships void of trust where partners play detective is not worth keeping except the issue with trust can be successfully resolved.


A relationship with no trust is like a cell phone with no service. All you do is play games. I can love you without trusting you. ["To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved" - GEORGE MACDONALD] It's not about terms and conditions or promises and loving declarations; a good relationship is built on trust and loyalty. One unique feature which the best of friendships can't exist without is trust. ["One must be fond of people and trust them if one is not to make a mess of life" - E.M. FORSTER]. When a friend always tells you about her problems, it doesn't mean that he/she complains; it means he/she trusts you, except he tells every acquaintance about his/her problems. It's normal to feel jealous about friends of the opposite sex which you have even the slightest erotic attraction to, but uncool not to let your partner go out into the world, and trust that he/she will come back.

When you have a good heart, you trust and love too much and seemingly hurt the most. ["You may be deceived if you trust too much but you will live in torment unless you trust enough" - FRANK CRANE] Trust is letting go of needing to know all the details before you open your heart. Succeeding in cheating someone doesn't necessarily make the cheated a fool; it means the cheated only trusted the cheater more than he/she deserved. The fact that broken trust is disheartening doesn't stop distrust from being expensive; it hinders openness and a free flow in communication, tolerance and tenacity, faithfulness to commitments etc. The fact that humans can fail us doesn't mean we have to scan all the people we meet with a lens of distrust before trusting them; the knowledge that someone doesn't trust you will certainly affect your friendship with that person. The best of your future will remain a shadow of your past if you continue letting your past control your present. ["The inability to open up to hope is what blocks trust" - ELIZABETH GILBERT] [ "ultimately, there can be no complete healing until we have restored our primal trust in life" - GEORG FEUERSTEIN]

["Without trust, words become hollow sounds of.a wooden gong. With trust, words become life itself" - JOHN HAROLD] ["You can't shake hands with a clenched fist" - INDIRA GANDHI] ["Trust men and they will be true to you; treat them greatly and they will show themselves great" - RALPH EMERSON] Don't just trust but be trustworthy. ["Trust and honesty is an investment you put in people" - RACHEL SCOTT]
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